"The Modest Man" series (part 1)

Each month I will be interviewing a young man for
"The Modest Man" series.

I have heard a lot about what different women think about modesty, but how do the men feel?  How does it affect them? I asked each of the men a few questions about things that I wanted to know. Let me know if you have questions of your own for followup interviews!

Blog Interview: The Modest Man

Name/Location:

Darius from Alabama

Tell us about you!

I am from Tuskegee, Alabama and I am currently a Sophomore Biology major at Morehouse College in Atlanta, Georgia. I like to write poetry, read and to conduct engineering research. 

What do you think of when you hear the word “modest?”

I think of humility, quietness, and strength.

It's 2012; do you feel that the idea of "modesty" outdated?

Being modest will never be outdated. It should be embraced. Our culture presents to our youth the need to expose their body and that you can get what you want through sex appeal and it is almost true because many companies use sex appeal to sale products to consumers. In return, this has created a culture that says, “sex sales” and by default it has developed a very narcissistic and vain society. Philippians 3:3 (NIV) says it best, “For it is we who are the circumcision, we who serve God by his Spirit, who boast in Christ Jesus, and who put no confidence in the flesh”. Many people put a lot of confidence in their flesh. Some women expose their bodies to men for attention, to manipulate them, to get what they want, or etc. Unfortunately, some do this as a result of low self-esteem, the environment that they grew up in, or because of dramatic events in their lives to cause them to relinquish all respect and love for themselves. Guys are affected in a similar way. Some become conceited about their body and spend hours in the gym because they place their confidence in the appearance of their body that the opposite sex would fall for them. Even I am guilty of this one. Yet our culture presents a strong tendency to fall into the pattern of sex appeal.

How important do you think it is for men to dress modestly? What do you consider modest dressing for men?

I think it is just as important for men to dress modestly as it is for women. Modest dressing for men would be pants above the waist, clean-cut, and nice and very presentable attire.  

What do you think a man's clothing choices say about him?

It yells out confidence and identity and sometimes it can give off the impression of how serious he is not about a matter.

What do you think a woman's clothing choices say about her?

It can establish the demand for respect from the opposite sex. What a woman’s attire exposes or covers can usually determine the reactions and the respect that they will receive from the opposite sex.

How important is it to you that your girlfriend/wife dress modestly?

Would you date/marry a woman who did not dress modestly? I believe that it is very important for my girlfriend/wife to dress modestly because I would not want to feel ashamed to introduce her family nor do I want her to be a negative influence on our daughter. As a mother, I expect my wife to be able to show our daughter how to dress and to respect herself. With that being said, I would not date or marry a woman who did not dress modestly.